Suni T and Family

As I wrote earlier when I am at the second job this my "me" time either alone with God so I can not only talk to him but to listen to Him talk to me or I have my iPod listening to music podcasts from my brothers and sisters (I haven't listened to Leo and the gang for a minute although I finally began listening to the latest TWiT episode while heading to pick up the Mrs.) or talk podcasts and two really cut me and healed me at the same time.

The Meltdown by Suni T is a awesome podcast because she puts her heart out there each and every time talking about mental health, how she truly feels, what she is struggling with day in and day out and her two podcast "The Do Nothing Attitude" and "Choose Your Mood" really spoke to my heart, soul, and mind. "Choose Your Mood" hit me hard because for me this year so far has been a challenge to say the least. Struggling with me being out of work for a while, not timing it right with my unemployment benefits, finally finding work and playing catch up with personal issues has made me feel isolated from the internet. It brought out the ugliness in the person who I thought I could truly rely on and is making me rethink things in reference to love, relationship, trust.

It's amazing how when you are "burned" by them in reference to their actions and it bites not only them but yourself how the attitude is, "I'm sorry but what's done is done". But when the shoe is on the other foot all hell breaks loose. I have put up with a lot of mess from this person and for them to turn on me like this was really hurtful. Suni's podcast, "Choose Your Mood" really made me rethink some issues. I know it drains her to record them but I hope she keeps them coming because tonight her podcasts really has made me realize so much about myself, how much I have grown and more important, getting to know "me" again.

This year I truly feel many of us who first joined Vox will be blogging more because so much is going on in our lives. We have grown so much. We came to Vox for fun, kind of left Vox because either with our busy schedule or just didn't feel like writing and now we are coming back home and we will begin getting in touch with one another again. Vox hasn't change...I have and now it's time for me to come back home. What Suni podcasts did for me today is that (1) I am not only and (2) Sometimes you have to push your way through situations, learn to love yourself, and realize that life is not and will not be perfect but not to let it beat you down.

Thanks lil' sis...you do not know how much your two shows helped me tonight. ^_^ 

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After a week of work

I am in training with about 10-15 people and I feel so alone; but when i head to the second job at night and I am by myself I feel so whole. Is the backwards? I don't think so because I do not like nonsense. I wish I could just come in to a job, people just do what they suppose to do...you know, "work". Instead, I hear people talking while the instructor is trying to teach his lessons, when going on break in break room where you can use your cell phone or use the wall phones that are available and I hear "baby momma's drama", chicks yelling at "Tyrone" for just laying around the house. A perfect world for me would be that if I had to work around women they watched shows on USA Network/HGTV/NatGeo/The Travel Channel. They listen to podcasts, they dress modest, the woman are polite, nice, and up front with you in a professional manner...no head games.

I am 43 now and I have a very low tolerance for foolishness. For me, women that watch Grey's Anatomy/Girlfriends/Sex In The City/TMZ/Access Hollywood/Entertainment Tonight/Oxygen/Lifetime Channel I have no need for them to come around me, be around me. Many of these type of women live in a fantasy world. I know there is no "perfect" person but what I have found out is that some women say they enjoy peace but love nonsense and other woman love peace, work for having peace around them and within themselves. I have also come to realize that for me there is a difference between a "church/Christian woman" and a woman that is a "Follower of Christ Jesus".

Let me make this very clear, not all women that watch T.D. Jakes/Cleflo Dollar/Zachary Timms/Rod Parsely/John Hagee and not like this but many women who watch these pastors say they are Christians but gossip, have bad eating habits, children have no home training, spends like its no tomorrow and then wonder why their lives are in disarray. Where women who watch and listen to pastors like Paul Sheppard/Dr. Charles Stanley/Greg Laurie/Adrian Rogers/Chuck Swindoll/David Jeremiah and that enjoy listening to NPR are more in tune with God's word, strong and yet gentle, they spend money wisely and are very pleasant to be around. I also find out that women that are into computers are some of the coolest women on the planet. I'm I saying that the former pastors I mentioned are bad? Not at all...what I have learned is that these men can teach God's word but it is up to the individual put it into practice.

When I am at my night cleaning job, I am alone, I have my quiet time with Jesus, I have my iPod and I am a happy camper. I can hear myself think, I can let my mind flow. The other thing is that even the people that work inside the building that cleans are very cool. Maybe it's because it's less contact and we are on our own floors...maybe blue collar people have more common/street sense than people that work in corporate America. Either way, it's so nice, so cool to work in this type of environment. This is my time to unwind. I look at working at the night job as exercise(and I get paid for it), solitude, time to re-group.

I have low tolerance for stupidity, whether male or female. I am glad I am married because in this day and age if I was single I think I would marry but I would be so selective that I may be single for the rest of my life. So much drama in this day and age and so many ways of carrying yourself is tolerated it makes my stomach turn. I think I'm like Robert DeNiro's character in "Heat" when he says, "I am 'alone' but I'm not 'lonely'. Maybe I'm getting to an age where I am becoming set in my ways but I don't think so. Maybe I'm getting set in my ways when it comes to people offline because it seems I'm cool with many people online.

Does anyone feel this way?

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Let's just get this straight..

I am beyond tired but EXHAUSTED of *trying* to be civil with people in explaining kinky hair issues.

I have come to the conclusion that non kinky haired people will continue to ooh and ahh but then talk SMACK behind kinky haired people's backs because they do not understand kinky hair culture.

If you are so curious then why don't you educate yourself as to what kinky haired people go through.

Do you understand the plight of the daily struggles we go through with the stares of the OOHS of why did she do that to her hair? This is what I sometimes deal with about my hair. Hi, your hair is: [insert insult here]. I've been called a variety of things from black barbie doll to a delusional individual when I twisted my hair.

My own neighbor here in New York City put her hand in my hair not believing it was my hair. She thought I had a weave and she was shocked this is my hair.

Same thing happened when I was in the 6th grade. Kid could not believe that kinky hair could grow and he grabbed my head and pulled out a string of my hair. That hurt so bad and I will NEVER forget him doing that. But at that point I had a weave because my hair dresser F*ed up my hair using chemicals so that young kid did have some Korean nylon in his hands. However, when my own hair grew out people assumed I had a weave. NOT true! Kinky hair grows!

Please check out this video on Black American - Black Hair:

CNN Video - Black Hair

Here is some knowledge on kinky hair care:

http://cornrowsandco.com/company.cfm?companyID=2

Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America

Ayana Byrd

There are plenty of blogs and websites on black hair issues but I found my best information by going to my various hair stylists who helped me learn how to manage my hair if I either wear it natural or if I have it chemically done.

Unfortunately, I had to cut and press (press = straighten my hair) my hair for an interview after I had been been wearing my hair natural for 8 years but I knew that this company I was dealing with was in a time warp for these were older white men who had made some comments to me about black women's hair essentially letting me know they did not like the braids, twists or locks but straight hair. I wanted to put a bag over my head after they said that for I wondered how they felt about me and my straight hair which was mine but I did not like wearing my hair straight. I wore it straight so I could get the position I had. I left after 9 months of chemically relaxing my hair. I went back to pressing my hair.

Now, I am loving my hair short. It was the best decision I ever made. I wear my hair with a relaxer in it because it is easier to manage this way but I am tempted to wear my hair naturally if I can get it shaped correctly. We will see.

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Feels great not to have that drama in my life anymore.

I only joined because a family friend was on there but I was reunited with people I had not been in touch with for years.

Guess what?

Still does not matter to me that people I knew are not in touch because they can go through the school networks to find me. Further, I am listed so they can find me there too if it is really that serious but I doubt it. I usually am not bothered too much which is great.

I am so over facebook!

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Personally, I am distressed of *trying* to support many artists with me buying their work but now I am absolutely flustered and upset by the lack of professionalism I am currently experiencing.

I ordered a book from a personal web store and paid with paypal for the item. It has now been a month without the item I have ordered. I have emailed the individual twice without any answers to my inquiry.

I know what to do now because this is a reason why I use the particular credit card I have but because of this incident I will NOT buy from personal webstores unless you are affiliated with a third party to intervene such as amazon.com or overstock.com, etc.

At this point, I do not even want the item but my money.

First I had issue with not receiving a music album from a music artist who lied and was not finished with the CD he claimed to be done with. I had pre-ordered a CD thinking I would get it in a month but that month ended up being a year later (I was DUMB to wait that long but I honestly wanted to see if I would receive the product. I did but I have no intentions of supporting that musician again. Further the individual said they were a graduate of Morehouse which was not true either).

In the instant case, this particular author said their book was done and now I see that may not be a truth either. My issue is with the person handling the webstore and not the author BUT if it is the author handling the webstore I am very surprised at your actions.

This needs to stop.

I still refuse to *pre-order* items but for someone to say their item is available and I still have not received it makes me extremely irritated.

I was a *supporter* of independent artists but now this support is being tested to the point that I don't even want to reach out like I have been doing.

Hire competent people to handle your web stores! Or allow a competent vendor to sell your work.
 
If not, NO sale from me.

Despite my current woes, I have to give a special shout out to Taalam Acey and hip hop artist Renaissance for quickly sending out my purchased items. These are the ONLY 2 artists I ordered from directly and I received the item within 3 days. I even used regular mail. I appreciate their professionalism. All of the independent artists should learn from them!

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Originally published at ::: Vibes N Scribes :::. You can comment here or there.

Friday, July 25, 2008
Synchronized Rhythm's 1 Year Anniversary / 6-11 p.m.
The Shrine
2271 Adam Clayton Powell Jr. Blvd.
New York, NY 10030

Saturday, July 26, 2008
Capitol Hip Hop/Soul Festival / 11 - 7 p.m.
Marvin Gaye Park
5200 Foote St. NE
Washington DC 20019

Monday, July 28, 2008
Eric Arceneaux CD Release Party / 8 - 11 p.m.
Pure
1326 U St. NW
Washington DC

peace,
Fresh!

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Twitter took off from simple to 'tweet' success - USATODAY.com

http://www.usatoday.com/tech/products...

Register at Twitter and claim your name. This may seem simple, but he tells the story of marketing guru Seth Godin, whose name was taken and a page created claiming to be him. "You don't want somebody else out there using your brand."

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Court Tosses FCC Fine Of CBS Over Janet Jackson Flash

http://www.billboard.biz/bbbiz/conten...

Court Tosses FCC Fine Of CBS Over Janet Jackson FlashJuly 21, 2008 - Legal and Management Reuters A U.S. appeals court on Monday overturned a decision to fine CBS Corp. television stations $550,000 for airing a brief breast flash by pop singer Janet Jackson during the 2004 Super Bowl broadcast. The U.S. Court of Appeals for the Third Circuit said the U.S. Federal Communications Commission "arbitrarily and capriciously departed from its prior policy" that exempted fleeting broadcast material from actionable indecency violations. Jackson's right breast was exposed to almost 90 million TV viewers for a fraction of a second during the live 2004 Super Bowl football halftime show in what fellow pop singer Justin Timberlake later called a "wardrobe malfunction." Timberlake ripped off part of Jackson's bustier exposing Jackson's breast during the show. Despite the brevity, lawmakers and regulators were outraged and vowed a crackdown on broadcast indecency. U.S. television and radio broadcasters are barred from airing obscene material and are limited from broadcasting indecent materials between the hours of 6 a.m. and 10 p.m., when children are likely to be watching. The restrictions do not apply to cable or satellite services. CBS apologized and paid the fine, $27,500 for each of the 20 stations it owns, but said it was not clued in ahead of time about the stunt and appealed the decision to the court, based in Philadelphia. The appeals court said CBS could not be held responsible for the incident. "Moreover, the FCC cannot impose liability on CBS for the acts of Janet Jackson and Justin Timberlake, independent contractors hired for the limited purposes of the Halftime Show..," wrote Chief Judge Anthony Scirica for the three-judge panel that heard the case. There was no immediate comment on the ruling by the FCC.

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My two cents,

We all came here because we were invited by someone from Plurk, most likely.  I wanna ask each of you to take the time to invite other people who Plurk or have Vox accounts to join this group.

Here is the link you can cut and paste: http://plurk.groups.vox.com/

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